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nwr04srt · 09-22-2005, 12:22 PM

Well, this is off the wall but if anyone wants to listen here goes. I guess some of what I'm thinking is me venting and raving or thinking worst possabilities.

I have a 3 year old son and his mother and me are not together and haven't been since he was born,his mother is from here but moved temporarly and thats when she had my son, but I love my son and would gladly give my life for him. He was was born out of state and was not given my last name and I was not put on the birth certificate (so legally I have no rights to him) When they lived out of state I would drive 1600 miles round trip too see him, but now they are back in state and I now have a chance to be a real father and see him all the time. They have been back here for about almost 2 years now and I could never let her leave state with him again, but thats exactly the threats I get from her is she plans on leaving state with him and there is nothing I can do she says.

All I wanna do is be a father to him and its like she doesn't even give a shit weather he has one or not and that drives me nuts, she has no morals at all.
But anyways I talked to my lawyer the other day and basically what i need to do to keep her from moving is setup some shit through FRIEND OF THE COURT. Now we haven't gone through them in the past cause we both didn't want that, so I always covered all medical bill and insurance and whatever else was needed and I never saw point to go through the courts cause I have mty son 3-4 nights a week every week Wed night, Fri night, Sat night, and he usually goes back to her on Sun. I'm am just worried about getting socked with a big child support, if its to high then I have to get rid of lots of thing starting with my SRT-4 which I love but my son comes first and I just bought a house, will I have to get rid of that too cause my current gf and I pay for it and can't afford it on just her income.

I just feel like I'm gonna start losing everything that I have been working hard for, its all fucking falling apart is how I feel GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, why would she want to take my son away and not even think twice about it, I can't belive it. Anyways

thats all for now, sorry this is long, if someone has any advise i'm open to it all

TJ1376 · 09-22-2005, 02:26 PM

First off, why are you not on the birth certificate? I would think a paternity test would give you legal rights to your child, but with that, also comes child support. If you take this to a judge, they will want to have proof of the child's father (paternity test), and then will grant you partial custody of your child, assuming you go through the hearing to get custody and prove you are worth it etc. Talk to your lawyer about that first. Secondly, if you really do want your son, you are going to have to start paying child support. I know that sucks, but if you don't have full custody of that child, you are responsible to help mom out financially. Sometimes you can't always have your cake and eat it too... Which I know sucks. But in my experience, the more time you get with your child, the less child support you have to pay.

Keep your chin up.

TJ

nwr04srt · 09-22-2005, 02:57 PM

Yeah I already had the paturnity test but it was not court ordered, which is why his mother didn't put me on the birth certificate, she was pissed cause I told her I was gonna want one done when he was born. She had been engaged right before I was with so I wasn't 100% I was the father at the time, so I said I want ed the test